Family Trauma-part 10

I am in a series that is taken from an article in Group magazine called, Coaching Kids Through A Family Trauma.Once again, no quotes as I am copying the article in full.  My thoughts however will be in Orange.

9.  To do something that helps the situation.

Although your struggling teenagers can’t fix their broken “normal,” they need some pragmatic ways to be helpful.  Brainstorm specific small ways they can offer support to their parents-for example, a back rub, or a surprise card, or a random act of kindness.

Little things go a long way.  If your not part of the solution you are typically part of the problem. Students need to know that there are ways that they can contribute and be a part of the situation at home of course there is the other side in the case of a divorce where the student thinks if they do more they will fix the marriage.  Students need to know that we love them unconditionally and that it is not about a list of things to do.