The ME Monster
Posted by Ryan Geiger on March 31, 2010 · 2 Comments
Challenged yesterday by Gus our Executive Pastor in our staff meeting about having a genuine concern for others. To show them enough courtesy to actually look them in the eye and listen to what they have to say and be able to respond with questions. So many times we get caught up in the busyness of the church and we get running and have a list of people that we are trying to connect with that we don’t stop and listen to the stories of the people who matter…you.
On the other side is listening with only the intention of answering. Not really listening. Listening so we can have an answer and sound smart. We covered this in our life group last week. Sometimes listening does not require an answer. Sometimes listening is giving the other person a chance to talk through their thoughts. Sometimes our only intent is to answer to sound smart. To one up them. To turn the answer around so that it becomes about us. I have found myself several times doing this. Answering to sound smart, to hear myself, to impress others. It really is pathetic if you think about it. I have been working on the spiritual discipline of silence. I am currently trying to learn from everybody and anybody no matter who they are or what their age.
For me if I ever get to the point that I convey I know more or even feel like I can’t learn from somebody else then I have a pride issue and I have lost my right to lead. If I ever get to the point where it is all about me and hearing myself answer to sound smart, or to impress or to appear to have it all together, I have lost my right to lead. If I ever get to the point that your story does not matter to me, I have lost my right to lead.
Be careful with trying to sound or appear wise because in the end you will sound and look like a fool. Make sure that people matter to you and make sure that what they say matters to you because I guarantee what they have to say matters to God. Who they are matters to God.
Do you ever find yourself doing any of this? I would love for you to share.
Below is a Brian Regan clip and a SNL clip about the ME Monster. What does it sound or look like when it’s all about you?
love the Brian Regan Clip and it really is true, not only is it selfish to be a ME MONSTER, but nobody likes that person, i think it is pretty rude also. it is nice to speak to someone without them constantly saying me or I or oh let me tell you what happened when i was in that situation…
Brian Regan reminds me of a clean Jim Carrey by the way…
Good call Rob. There are a lot of people out there and I think I do that sometimes myself. Its a good lesson for everybody to be aware of.